Life happens. Sometimes your favorite people can't make your special day. Here are some ways to honor those special people that can't be there:
1) Remember everyone that can't make it isn't dead - We recently did a wedding that one of the groom's best friends couldn't make it. He was simply in another country. To the groom's surprise, the bride had gotten not 1 but 2 life sized cutouts of the absent friend. It was awesome. She had one for down the aisle (that we handed to a bridesmaid as she made her way down) and one for party time (shot included). He was totally part of the party.
2) Skype 'em - Hello...this is the age of technology. Vegas chapels have been doing it for years but now everyone is getting hip to it. This is most popular with destination weddings. Set up your laptop or smart phone in a chair or ask a guest to hold it. Just as the ceremony is starting, begin your video chat and allow your missing guests to still be a part. It's just like they're there minus the cheers-ing of that 5th tequila shot, lol!
3) Bottoms Up - Many people are including a signature cocktail or a few at their weddings. Why not name one after your favorite person missing in action? What concoction comes to mind when you think of them? Have them suggest one. It is a delicious way to include them. Afterall, good drinks give that liquid courage to get the party started. Trust us, we'd consider that an honor. Especially if you served our signature cocktail the KGE OG!
4) Dance, baby - Tell your DJ or band leader that at a special time in the night to play your loved one's favorite song. Get out there and do your best cabbage patch or running man in their honor. Make sure to record it and send it to them.
5) In Memorium - Unfortunately, you can't always time the passing of those loved ones that mean the most. There are so many ways to honor them. One of our favorites that has been done time and time again is to leave a reserved chair empty for that person. Often times you will have people that will put a picture of their loved one in that chair. Another, way is to light a candle for that person/s at your altar.
When The Greene got married many moons ago she acknowledged her lost loved ones with a reading about them being there in spirit and subsequent bell ringing in their honor. Do what you feel will best represent them. Keep in mind this is still a celebration and not a memorial. Think symbolism.
The reality is you don't do this for EVERY missing guest. Just the besties or dearly departed. Not only will it help them know how much they mean to you but it gives you a chance to feel their presence. It's a win, win if you ask us. It is so simple, inexpensive and most of all thoughtful to acknowledge those closest to you.
Photo above by Kelly Kollar Photography